If you are planning your wedding (or anybody else’s for that matter) you want it to be a great day, the best day in fact. Of course you do.
I read a ‘helpful’ article recently which outlined the trends to avoid if you are planning a wedding in 2017 which I thought I would share with you.
Here are a few of the no-no’s on their extensive list;
Cowboy boots or Converse trainers with your wedding attire
Having a big bridal party
Anything boho or DIY
Giant bridal bouquets
The informal wedding breakfast
Having read their article I would like to respond with a few of my own trends to avoid. Some you might agree with, some you might not! Feel free to let me know in the comments section.
1) Having a theme or colour scheme (or anything else) because you feel like you are expected to.
For starters, there will be very few guests who will remember your colour scheme. Secondly some of the most beautiful wedding photos I have seen have been ones which had NO colour scheme at all. If you want to go down this route then cool, that’s your choice – just be aware of the “teal trap”! You pick a colour (any colour) and you will be surprised by how many different shades there are. Want to save some money? decide on a palette rather than a colour.
2) Expecting your wedding to come above your guests comfort/priorities
Your wedding is a pretty important day in your life and you want your loved ones there. Great. Do them a favour though and don’t expect them to travel hundreds of miles and spend a lot of money only to be spending the day standing around with a rumbly tummy because the person planning the wedding decided that it was “their problem if they didn’t have breakfast”.
If you invite a person they are your guest, it is common courtesy to make them feel comfortable.
That doesn’t mean an endless supply of nibbles and a free bar. It does mean letting them know if there will be a long gap between the ceremony and the food. Similarly if you don’t want to have children at your wedding, that’s understandable. Don’t be cross though if that parent you invited can’t make it due to the lack of a babysitter. That’s life.
3) Not including your In-Laws on the thank you’s if they don’t contribute to the wedding
If you value your relationship with your future spouse then you should probably just suck it up and give them that thank you. Maybe they are an enormous pain, maybe you share an immense dislike of each other, maybe. It doesn’t matter. Grow up and get behind the fact that they produced and raised their child to be the person who you are choosing to spend the rest of your life with. Be nice.
4) Asking your Bridesmaids to change their appearance to better suit your photos
Yes, it happens. Some corkers I have seen in the last few years have included them being asked to get to a tanning salon (not a spray tan, a proper one. The bride didn’t want the dress ruined), a girl being asked not to be in her wheelchair for the photos and many, many girls who were asked to dye their hair so they didn’t stand out in photos. Please. Just don’t.
5) Scrimping on the Photographer
Trust me on this. It is the biggest regret from all of the brides I speak to after their wedding. If the photos aren’t right or the photographer is “not a people person” then you are not going to be happy with the end result. That doesn’t mean you need to pay through the nose, what it does mean though is that if your budget is limited you need to do your homework big time!
5) Including (or excluding) anything for the sole reason that it is (or isn’t) en vogue.
Your wedding day should be about you. It should represent you both as a couple and as individuals and as such there is NOTHING off limits. Naked cakes are beautiful and DIY weddings can save you a LOT of money as well as bringing more than a touch of the personal to your special day. There really are no rules at all. Don’t wear white or ivory or even a wedding dress if that’s not who you are. Or do! Whatever your day looks like, the outcome will hopefully still be the same.
So that’s my list. Feel free to add your own to the comments section, I would love to hear them!
The things people will remember from your day will be how much fun it was, not whether you had favours or what canape they were given after the ceremony. So forget the politics, make it FUN and GOOD LUCK!